Should sex be omnipresent?

There is a paradox in the way the modern generation thinks about sex. Sex is everywhere, it is cheaply available, and yet we are told to think of it as something more. Something that we can never put a finger on, some pearl of great price. Something that is hidden in the fabric of the cosmos but never in the hormones; Au Contraire, to look at the hormones would be to unmask the devil. This makes the queen of unspoken marketing campaigns. Moreover, sex is sold by the major music and media companies so that sex can sell more. To borrow from Ecco, it is sex marketing squared. Not only is this true, but it's been true for much longer than we might realize, in some form or another. Vases might have phallic value, or be shaped like a woman to allure buyers. 


Of course if you visit a site devoted to this type of business  it comes off as weak-minded, sleazy, ineffectual. It offers an insight into what popular culture really is. It would not be difficult to equate pop culture with the value that Tera Patrick's video series Fit 4 sex brings to humanity. 

For those who are lacking for time, the basic idea here is that Tera Patrick tries to sell a fitness video as a way of making money away from her usual vocation of porn. But with those obviously exaggerated sexual expressions, she gives away her game. In fact, we see that she was a fake all along. She oohs and aahs her way through the various exercise routines that cannot possibly give her that much pleasure, and there is, moreover, very little here that aids anyone's ability to have better sex. This is Tera Patrick selling Tera Patrick's sex appeal. It is essence of narcissism sold as something else.  Part of the problem is that Terra offers men the promise of manhood.

To understand why this doesn't work, we must consider what has worked for her. In the infinitely complex networks of the brain's, she lights up onet hat  makes us think that only we alone are capable of pleasuring her. But in the fit 4 sex series the bigger picture, she fails because she has taken on board her own success as a marketing force of the universe. A bit like the internet sensation of Delphine who tried to sell her own bathwater as a cure for mundane. Women aren't interested, and if anything, they are disgusted. It's a market of deluded men in the monsterous world of the interenet, who would buy fit 4 sex for their wives, not to get more pleasure but to make them act more like Tera Patrick in the bedroom. 

This is a diversion from the main topic though. Suffice it to say that sex needs something to cover it up as not-sex. It needs that insatiable argument that shows it is really the answer to your life's problems. It needs clothes to be peeled off to distract form the naked body, the barbie legs to distract from ovaries and child-making telos of sex . Simultaneously, it needs the feeling of there being an invisible magical hand in the background to peel away the glandular, colorless aesthetics of a mechanical, heartless process. That is the editor and narrator. Now that I have let the cat out of the bag, let's consider the main paradox of our approach ot omnipotent sex. I have mentioned the economic paradox of rarity vs faux rarity. I will give you a taste of the main one now. It also hinges on the fact that 30 percent of the internet is devoted to porn. 

We are told to think that women who flaunt their wares in public are sluts, while at least 60 percent of men younger than 40 celebrate porn stars in private, and increasingly this is the case in public life. On the other hand, there is a strong belief that women who don't give themselves up to our needs in public are cold and are inhumanely denying our need for a close connection. I offer for your consideration the movie 500 days of summer. Zooey De Chanel destroys a young man's life by failing to offer an antidote to the void, which is also the thing the world expects her to be a cure for. Nothing short of a foundation for a man's happiness. 

I will offer not a conclusion, but a question to all of this: Why do you consider pornstars to have a secret sauce without which you wouldn't watch them, while at the same time being angry with women in the real world for being too secretive, for hiding their private world. And then again, when they flaunt their wares in the real world, why do you deny them as being whores?