Golfing with Lhin

 In Asia I've found there's a mix of friendly and not-so friendly people when it comes to dating. 

Only today for instance, I was blocked on IG by a girl, for not being able to afford the golf course fee (for both of us). It came to 18,000 baht. About half my teacher's salary.

This was apart from and beyond the embarrassment I felt as I did the walk of shame out of the golf course grounds.

Normally, what would drive me to compassion for a person, made her block me. I would offer to pay; offer to go somewhere else. But girls are princesses, even in Thailand. 

She came out of those gates looking in the other direction, refusing to face me. 

I guess girls want a guy with resources. At this time - age 38 - I do not have them to spare. 

The date went like this: 

I ran to the golf club which was more elaphantine than the grand castle of a place I imagined. 

This is because the Grab driver was late, and couldn't make it through the barricades - he was on the wrong side. 

When she arrived we shook hands. This was about 20 minutes after the appointed time.

We met at the Thana City Golf course and had lunch. I was grateful for that. It was a needed interaction. We got on extremely well. I'd say that we were like two peas in a pod. 

I had some kind of noodles in Thai gravy. She had something that I don't care to remember. It was noodles or something. 

Anyway, she taught me some Thai, I asked her about her hobbies. Many of our hobbies aligned. She also didn't sleep too much, and told me that sleeping landed you with a longer life. 

The green was beautiful too. We stared onto it as we ate.

We laughed a lot.

But then things started to go downhill. 

It turned out you had to book the course, the caddy, the clubs beforehand.

I had not done any of this. 

Now I'm an easy-going man. 

I don't need a lot of things to keep me happy. 

But I could feel the atmosphere start to shift now. 

She was a high-maintenance woman all of a sudden.

All went quiet. 

But in any case, we had to make a decision pretty rapidly. 

She seemed understanding. But that silence was fierce. 

We went to another golf course eventually, but it took a long time. She booked the Grab.

She slept along the way. 

I turned around and commented once: Ah, you're sleeping. 

She smiled sweetly: "Yah."

Lovely girl I thought. 

Well when we got there, excluding the outside of it,  I have to say the place was a lot nicer. 

We went into the sports shop and she told me to give them her name.

She went to the bathroom. 

While she was away I discovered the price to be 18,000. I only had 4,000 in cash. In disbelief I naively handed them 2,000. They corrected me. It was a whole digit more than I'd expected. 

Then I told her, when she came back: Look I'm really embarrassed, but I can't pay for this. 

She said okay and explained it would have been the same at Thana city.

That's when I did the walk of shame. 

Although I feel a little bad about the thing, I don't feel awful

I'm glad I came to Bangkok. 

I'm glad I visited that massage place with the hot stones. 

I'm glad I got to talk to a pretty girl. 

That's more or less the way one should handle these things: Be grateful in the moment. Don't expect too much. It might have blown up sooner or later; in fact with her lack of compassion, I think it would have. She gave me the date though, and she's the hottest I've been with while here.